What’s keeping you from meeting your goals? What is the story you keep playing in your head that is stopping you from achieving great things? If you are anything like me, the word Can’t is used way to often when you talk about things that are scary, might challenge you, or possibly deviate from the routine that is your “norm”. You need to stop the CAN’T that’s running through your head, because you can!
Replace can’t with “will, can, should, try, why not, when I, it’s possible if I”
When I was a teenager, can’t was like a dare. If someone told me I couldn’t do something, it became my mission to prove them wrong. I’m not sure when that mentality was replaced by this nay-sayer in my head now, but I don’t like it.
When approaching a new goal or a lifestyle change, I find that often the only thing holding me back is me. I can talk about the new goal to friends and family, make big elaborate plans and strategies on how to implement my plans and daydream about what my life will be like. But when I finally push through and achieve that goal or move down a path to that dream? Often the voice in my head whispers “can’t” and I just fall right in line with believing it, and the rest of the crowd.
I sometimes don’t notice the voice, I just start making rational explainations why I changed or “delayed” my plans. How do you tell people that it was the can’t monster!!
I delayed getting my personal training certification for 3 years because of can’t. I delayed starting this blog, reaching my fitness goals, my ability to make connections with people; all because of can’t.
My new strategy has been to push back! To pretend like I’m the girl I was in high school. To swallow the fear and take the leap of faith!
Now I take time to analyze my goals and question the can’ts in my head:
- Why not?
- Yes, I can… watch me!
- I can at least try
- If I want it that bad, how can I make it happen?
- What’s the worst that can happen?
See what I’m discovering is that CAN’T only has as much power as I let it!
Can’t is safe. Can’t is nothing changes, can’t is easy…. can’t is AVERAGE! I am extraordinary!
And I’m not having it anymore. So my new strategy is find a way how. Embrace failure, as failures only mean learning so I can come back and succeed the next time. Open my mind and heart to optimism and commit fully to what makes my mind and heart race with excitement. How else will grow in knowledge, experiences, and life? No more CAN’T!
Challenges are a part of life. I’m always challenged with my running, read about it at my Zappos Experience post!
What About You?
- Do you have tips for quieting the can’t?
- What’s something you’ve overcome when you stopped saying can’t?